How is She Holding Up?

Upon receiving an offer to teach abroad:

1-Congratulations!  Welcome to the emotional rollercoaster trumped only by being married and having children!

2-Please remember that the Offer Letter that you are asked to sign, date and initial is NOT a contract.  Lesson learned.

3-DO NOT QUIT YOUR JOB.  Lesson learned through the sad stories of teachers hired for January 2016, only to be left in the dark until April 2016 that their departure was pushed to August 2016.  Then, in some cases, the offers were cancelled.  DO NOT QUIT YOUR JOB until you have a plane ticket.  Even then, try to take a leave of absence and not resign.

4-DO NOT sell everything!  I am very fortunate to have found out I am not going to be moving to the UAE before selling my beloved bed and plush couch.  Two pieces of furniture getting a lot of use since having my offer rescinded.

It has been 2 weeks since we got the sudden letter of rejection.  Words of encouragement to “keep trying!” and “don’t give up!” have been pouring in until about a day ago.  Then everyone returned to their regular lives.  Except us.

I don’t mean to sound defeatist…I want to give you a positive proverb or two on keeping the faith, but it’s not looking too bright.  My Teach Away Rep seems to have dropped me.  She doesn’t respond to my emails so I doubt she is being proactive in finding me a new position.  Me, on the other hand, I’ve been applying, emailing, scanning, networking, searching, following-up, phone interviewing, and skyping every hour of every day (and sometimes in my sleep – some of these recruiters are located around the world!)

But nothing is coming up.  I think I’ve put in all the time I can to this.  This weekend I took up binge watching “Lost” because that’s exactly how I feel.

I’ve got 3 timelines to consider:

June 28th – School ends.  I need to spend some time packing up my room. Or not.

June 30th – We are moving out of our townhouse.  Yep, we are going to be one of those homeless Abu Dhabi Hopefuls 2016.  We gave our landlords notice back in May and now they’ve gone and sold the house!  Good for them, bad for us.  I have no idea where we are moving to!

September 8th – School Starts up again here in NYC.  In 9 weeks we need to find a new place to live and decide if we even want to stay in New York. We could move to Virginia/DC area or move to North Carolina.  We have family in each of these areas willing to help us transition into a new life.  Or do we decide to stay in New York?  What would Suze Orman say?

So, while I’m not giving up, I’m not feeling so NYC Teacher Abroad anymore.  I’m feeling like NYC-Teacher-Stays-Her-A$$-In-The-US.  At least for one more year.

5 – Make peace with your decision and keep going for it.  

I’m going to be ok!

A Dream Deferred

It was all a dream. 

I dreamt I signed a contract to teach abroad. I dreamt I was offered more money than I make here. I dreamt I would have flight allowances to travel the world, a bonus each year, and housing provided for my family. It was all a dream. 

Yet, you’ve seen a picture of me signing a contract, right?  Today, that contract was rescinded and I am no longer headed to the UAE. My dream has been put on hold. The Abu Dhabi Education Council has decided they hired too many people so they cut a few. 


Crying and shaking I ran out of my building today, hoping no one would notice. As soon as I sat in my car, it started to downpour. I cried a good five minutes with the rain concealing me from others walking out of work. How? Why? 

I called my husband and choked out the news. I text my interview friends for support. I checked the 2016 Abu Dhabi groups on fb and found I was not the only one – so far I’ve counted 20 teachers who got the same sad news. What a cruel joke. 

I am not going to be a teacher for ADEC. Not this year, anyway. I’m not sure if ever. My heart feels a little broken. I’m upset for my family and the tears I may have caused others who were trying to make peace with our decision to move. I’m upset for my husband who did so much running around to get our paperwork together. I’m upset that I sold my favorite blue chair and beautiful swirly mirror during one of our yard sales!  I am so lucky my kids don’t quite get where we were headed or I’d be upset for them too. 

Is this a sign? Do I keep applying and searching for a job abroad? Or do I stay put here in New York, where I have a perfectly good job? Is this a dream deferred? Or canceled?

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Get On Your Feet – Marquis Theatre

 Times Square, New York, 7 pm

Hey ladies, do you like Comedy?

No

Where are you from?

New York

Oh yeah? Like up near Canada?

No like New York, New York

Dumbass

The Broadway Experience is an essential  part of being a New Yorker and a must for every visitor to New York.  Unfortunately, natives and tourists alike will be harassed by street advertisers trying to lure the naive into their sales pitch.  Your comedy show probably sucks, dude.

How do people write reviews of broadway shows?  Every single one I’ve seen has been nothing short of amazing!  Last Month we caught a matinee to see Get On Your Feet at the Marquis Theatre.  And by “caught” I mean we snagged orchestra seats back in February at a decent price.  My sisters Lisa, Natalie, and I all chipped in to get my mom tickets for her birthday. It’s really tough getting the perfect gift for Mom because “things” can never show her how much we appreciate her and none of us can afford diamonds. But we know she loves going out with us!

After braving the MTA on a Sunday and fiesting on brunch at The Blue Fin (more on that in a moment) we sauntered over to the Marriott Marquis. I told them about how I interviewed for my new job here on the 17th floor back in February.  Lisa reminded me of the time we dined at the restaurant on the top floor thanks to a guy trying to impress my friend, Tammy.  The view from the spinning restaurant is almost worth the cost of dinner for 4.

Thrilled with our seats, we read through the playbill and checked off shows we’ve seen and shows we need to see next. Hamilton is all the rage these days but tickets are nearly impossible to get.

Checking in on FB

As the lights dimmed, the music picked up and I didn’t know whether to stand up and start dancing or sing along! I followed the lead of those around me and stayed put.

It was the story of Gloria and Emilio Estefan; how their talent, romance and family values came together and accomplished The American Dream.  Growing up, I loved Gloria Estefan and the Miami Sound Machine! I danced to The Congo at my wedding!  Throughout the show, I was impressed with how similar relationships can be within families;  the strain between mother and daughter; the bond between sisters; the support from grandparents; and the magic/mayhem of marriage. I laughed, I cried. By the end, I sang and danced.

Memorable Lines;

“You better get used to this face because this is the face of an American” Emilio Estefan to a record producer (Huge Applause!)

“I hope Gloria really likes this song because she’s going to be singing it for the rest of her life!” (The Conga) Record Producer to Emilio.

“Look how far we have come – two children of immigrants just got invited to the White House and shook hands with The President of the United States.” Emilio to Gloria

I immediately added a Gloria Estefan station to my Pandora.

An essential companion to the Sunday Matinee Experiences is the Sunday Brunch Experience.  The Blue Fin didn’t disappoint!  Using opentable.com, I booked a spot for 4 as I rode the subway into Manhattan.  There are plenty of Chain/Tourist/Fast food spots in Times Square – Juniors, Bubba Gump, Ellen’s Broadway Diner all came to mind.  But Blue Fin caught my attention with the option of having sushi, waffles, pancakes, a raw bar.  Usually, too many options reflect badly on a menu – what are you?  A seafood restaurant?  Sushi? Brunch?  But Blue Fin pulls it all off beautifully.  We ordered The Balcony to start – 2 tiers of raw oysters, ceviche, lobster, clams, calamari…and all extremely fresh and tasty.  I seriously can’t believe how good the food is here in NYC sometimes.

Brunch @ The Blue Fin

Next we delved into a true brunch – lemon-ricotta pancakes topped with fresh berries, a lobster roll, quiche and crab cake sandwich.  All were delicious, but the quiche was quite small.  We had to have a 2nd order of their welcoming breads – blueberry muffins, scones, and cinnamon raisin bread – all so moist and fresh.

Brunch may have cost almost as much as the matinee, but all of it was totally worth it.  My Mom and sisters are the 1st people I think of when I want to enjoy a great meal or have a good time.  I am so lucky my parents provided me with built-in best friends! What am I going to do without them???

Mom, Natalie and Lisa

 

*feature image taken from the A Train on the ride home.  Zoom in and you’ll see Manhattan.